by Deb Brothers-Klezmer,BSN, RN-BC, CRRN, NCTMB & Wendy Midgley, MEd, RD, CDE
“We are the stories we tell ourselves.” –Shekhar Kapur–
January is a popular time to make New Year’s resolutions and set goals and intentions. It is also a good time to review our personal stories. Each of us has a story or tales to tell–whether we think so or not! We can see our stories in the patterns of our lives, in the way we talk, and in how we describe ourselves. We also have unconscious stories and chapter headings, of which we are often not even aware!!
Do we like the stories in our life? In this BLOG, we will discuss the power in our stories. Our stories can affect our DNA (genetic potential and expression), metabolism and health, relationships, prosperity, types of opportunities that come to us, and overall level of consciousness.
We will also give you Tips and Steps on how to create NEW STORIES, or modify existing stories.
New Year’s resolutions contain the theme of: improving one’s life in some fashion. Often they involve a new weight loss diet, an exercise program, or a specific habit change. Improved habits are well and good in themselves; but typically, resolutions fall by the wayside after an initial period of energetic focus.
Why is this? This may be because our intentions and resolutions are not matching A GREATER STORY we are trying to tell, or change, about ourselves. In fact, we may not even know the larger story behind it all.
More specific reasons resolutions don’t always work:
(1) We ask ourselves to do too much all at once–so the whole resolution goes out the window quickly. (Our plans may be too big and overwhelming; but they may be more workable if we break them down into small manageable steps.)
(2) We haven’t done enough introspection re: what the changes entail, and how they affect other aspects of our lives (including relationships.)
(3) We have good goals but we haven’t thought of how to handle the obstacles that will always present themselves at some point. Which obstacles can we simply remove? Which ones require creative attention?
(4) We don’t have a support system for when the initial enthusiasm wanes.
(5) We are too judgmental about being perfect and accomplishing 100% change. (we are not willing to accept that we are perfectly imperfect).
(6) When daily stresses or life events seem too overwhelming, we tend to revert to old default patterns and habits entrenched in the brain pathways.
(7) We often have mixed and ambivalent feelings about making changes, as doing so requires on-going commitment, time, discipline, and energy.
***THIS YEAR: Consider re-writing your PERSONAL STORY BEFORE writing your goals, resolutions, and intentions. If you are clear on your STORY and WHAT YOU WANT in LIFE; your INTENTIONS will have MORE POWER behind them.***
Get out a Journal or sheets of paper, or open a new FILE on the computer. The following questions can help you write your NEW story and its particular components:
(1) What truly matters to me in 2013? What gives me a sense of purpose?
(2) What would my personal optimal health look like for 2013 and beyond?
(3) What does abundance, having more than enough, and ideal financial flow look like for me?
(4) What would my ideal friendships and relationships look like?
(5) What gifts do I have, or have always had, but am not offering to myself and others?
(6) What would my ideal work situation or job look and feel like?
(7) Where do I want to visit: that will give me the experience of Beauty, and allows me to listen to outer AND inner Silence if I choose?
(8) What positive experiences am I choosing in 2013?
(9) How can I share and receive more Love, Light, and Laughter and Compassion this year?
(10) How can I become more involved with greater community and EXPAND my connection with others: including unfamiliar people, places and things?
After you’ve thought about (or written down) your NEW story, or put a NEW TWIST on your old story: you are ready to set new intentions.
In honor of 2013 we are offering 13 suggestions to help you ignite your thoughts, beliefs, and expectations. Plus an extra BONUS suggestion!! It can be helpful to ask yourself the QUESTION: Will making this choice help me obtain my goals? Yes or No? (It is OK to be picky in determining choices and goals for yourself.)
1. Practice Prayer, Meditation, BreathWork and/or Ritual
2. Practice Forgiveness.
Collect a list of all the characters you still blame, still judge, and still keep hostage in your psychic prison. Once your list is complete, check it over to make sure it includes the three people you likely need to forgive the most: your parents and yourself. Dive real deep and find the soul lesson that others were helping you learn with their wounding or betraying ways. Thank them for helping your stretch your limits and acknowledge that you are indeed a better person and have grown from their actions. Acknowledge to yourself that this may be an ongoing practice, perhaps life-long. (from the work of Marc David.)
3. Have Love and Compassion for self and others.
4. Learn about things that matter to you most by utilizing your senses: reading, listening, experiencing, creating.
5. Be as physically active as you can.
6. Be confident that change is possible.
7. Allow in positive experiences that encourage self-love and value.
8. Choose nourishing, whole foods that work with your DNA– instead of against it.
9. Find something to be grateful for each day; no matter what kind of day you’ve had. GRATITUDE from the HEART raises our vibration. Try keeping a GRATITUDE journal.
***Check out PHONE APPS for gratitude and optimism. For example: findingoptimism.com***
10. Seek advice from your own wisdom. Remember: you have the tools to go within for answers and advice re: choices.
11. Put your precious energy into enjoying time with yourself and with those people and purposes that matter. Let good enough be good enough.
12. Honor times of fatigue and low energy. “Fatigue helps slow us down, feel, look inside, listen deeply, and make the kinds of course corrections that would otherwise be unnoticed if you had not been visited by this reminder. So before you look to banish your low energy, make it an honored guest, find its message and notice what it feels like to feel tired. Rest. Don’t tell yourself you have no time to slow down and re-charge. It’s your life. Be honest, be brave, and make the time.” (from Marc David.)
NOTE: If you continue to feel extremely low energy, or no energy, contact your medical care provider.
13. Think about, or write, a brief narrative of YOUR STORY that includes: past-present-future; and that has a GROWTH FACTOR to it. The process of CONNECTING the past, present and future gives our brain a story that goes from beginning to end–which helps us create that positive outcome we seek. (from Dawna Markova)
14. “Pay more attention to the Silence than to sounds. Paying attention to outer Silence creates inner Silence; the mind becomes still. A portal is opening up.” (from Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now).
***Allow the possibility that Gut-Brain-Heart can be trusted advisors. Listen carefully to their messages.***
***Actions, reactions and transactions are the tools of connected experience. (from the A.R.T. of Engagement–Brian Solis) Take action!!!***
Each of us has the opportunity to create, positively twist, change and expand our story until our very last breath!!
Happy 2013 from the Wellness Shifter Ladies!!!
Wendy and Deb
“The Universe is made up of stories, not atoms.” —Muriel Rukeyser, Poet
- Super Brain: Unleashing the Explosive Power of Your Mind to Maximize Health, Happiness, and Spiritual Well-Being by Deepak Chopra, MD and Rudolph E. Tanzi, PhD
- This Year I Will: How to Finally Change a Habit, Keep a Resolution, or Make a Dream Come True by MJ :
- Clean: Remove, Restore, Rejuvenate: The Revolutionary Program to Restore the Body’s Natural Ability to Heal Itself by Alejandro Junger, MD
- 52 Small Changes: One Year to a Happier, Healthier You by Brett Blumenthal
- The Slow Down Diet: Eating for Pleasure, Energy, and Weight Loss by Marc David