by Wendy Midgley, MEd, RD, LDN, CDE and Deb Brothers-Klezmer, BSN, RN-BC, CRRN, NCTMB
“Let us define something in 2015 that we will move toward with great force, skill and excellence. Let us seek to master something once more and we will find more flow, joy and power.” by Brendan Burchard, author of The Motivation Manifesto
As 2014 leaves and 2015 arrives, it is a perfect time to press “the RE-SET button” and create something NEW! Whether 2014 was “a great year,” “a mixed bag year”, or a “not so good a year”– we are all invited to re-envision our lives.
2015, in numerology circles, is “a number 8 year.” The number 8 is described as one of Abundance, Infinite Possibility and Freedom. Whether one believes in this or not, why not align oneself with these qualities!!??
And remember that ABUNDANCE is more than $$$. When we notice the abundance that is all around us in Nature and in human hearts—we can more easily enter the Flow, and attract more of what we are seeking.
New Year’s Resolutions do not always “agree with us” because many of us have made them before and didn’t carry through on them! However, we can always wipe our slates clean and start fresh.
In practicing new habits on a consistent basis, we create upgraded NEURO-WIRING in the brain that will help us sustain our new life patterns.
***Wouldn’t it be FREE-ING to go to a totally ‘neutral space’ and write a brand new chapter? ***
According to MJ Ryan, we can always start again and create a new pattern. She describes how to make peace with our brain’s wiring in her book: THIS YEAR I WILL: How to Finally Change a Habit, Keep a Resolution, or Make a Dream Come True.
Change experts agree that it is best to go for 1-2 small changes at a time. Small changes can lead to BIG CHANGES over time.
“People can make remarkable changes in their lives by taking ONE SMALL STEP at a time. The day-to-day choices you make influence whether you maintain vitality as you age and develop (or don’t develop) life-shortening illnesses and disabling conditions like heart disease, diabetes, and high blood pressure.” –Harvard Medical School Report: Simple Changes, Big Rewards
BE SPECIFIC with your goal, BE REALISTIC, SET a PLAN. EXPECT SETBACKS and get back on track as soon as possible.
***SPECIFIC GOALS are more likely to lead to a change than are vague goals.***
***WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS.***
***Creating a new chapter in life REQUIRES CHANGE, and an ALLOWING for the discomfort that typically accompanies the change process.***
***Sometimes during periods of inertia–we just have to get ourselves moving with 1 small change! Maybe take a class for simple FUN! And then, more will come to us. ***
“I never saw a man who was good at making excuses who was good at anything else!”—Ben Franklin
“He who doesn’t move his feet will not fall. But he will also not move forward.” Gonzalo Arzuaga
In order to change: we need to feel a certain level of MOTIVATION. Many people say “I am just not motivated anymore.” But we can all find SOMETHING that inspires us, that is asking for our attention, that is nudging us to share with others. Just noticing WHAT LIGHTS US UP—can help us feel more motivated to take action. Action itself can create more motivation–which leads to another round of action.
Brendan Burchard addresses the MOTIVATION subject eloquently in his new bestseller: The Motivation Manifesto. He describes how the soul really longs for MASTERY, whether our personalities think we are “retired” or not!
*** “Happiness lies not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the Joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.” –Franklin D. Roosevelt at his 1st Inaugural Address
To be motivated, there needs to be an inner drive, impulse, or intention that causes a person to act or move in a certain way. We need to have an incentive or a goal in mind.
NURTURING a MOTIVATIONAL STATE:
What if you feel stuck and unclear re: what you are motivated to do, to move towards, or be? You may feel your motivation has gone on permanent vacation!
Bring motivation back by noticing what LIGHTS YOU UP and INSPIRES YOU. What raises your energy? Commit to noticing these things.
For more focus: complete the following sentence—filling in words with whatever comes to mind:
For example: I want to feel better physically, have more energy, feel happier, have more money, take more trips, lose weight, eat better, drink more water, drink less alcohol, complain less, give more compliments, sleep better, make new friends, be more accepting, get a new job, write a book, and so on…. It could be as simple as “I want Peace.” Start with a blank piece of paper and write down whatever comes to mind in completing this sentence.
Some folks find it helpful to look at a Wheel of Life Chart in checking in with themselves. Many versions of this chart exist. LIFE ASPECTS include: Health and Well-Being, Relationships (family and friends), Significant other/Romance, Work/Career; Financial well-being; Relaxation and leisure /play; Spirituality, and Community/Global service/Connectivity. We have included a chart by life coach Angus McLeod.
http://angusmcleod.com/wheel-of-life/ Check out Angus McLeod’s website for more information!
NOTE: What constitutes a BALANCED wheel of life varies from person to person, as each of us is unique.
If the Wheel of Life isn’t helpful, try a more simple approach, by reviewing how you are feeling physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
- Do I need more consistent physical activity?
- Does my body want more water?
- Do I need to clean up my diet: eat more greens, more organic, less sugar, fewer processed foods?
- Do I need to work on my sleep habits?
- Is it time for a vision exam or dental cleaning?
- How is my overall attitude about Life?
- Am I more optimistic than pessimistic?
- What are my thought processes about conflicts or obstacles?
- Can I reframe thoughts about troubling events into more manageable perspectives?
- Am I in touch with my emotions, or do I suppress them? OR the opposite:
- Am I overly reactive emotionally?
- Do I repeatedly replay “old emotions” and “old tapes” when triggered by certain events or people? If so, maybe it is time to release some old patterns!!! (DELETE, DELETE!!)
“I release all things from the past year (YEARS!) that have caused any negative attachment. I prepare and welcome new changes, new adventures, and new lessons. I welcome new opportunities to grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually.” –Author unknown.
- Am I in touch with something, or a Source, much greater than my usual self?
- How can I nurture an expanded state? (e.g.: being in Nature, prayer/meditation, participating in activities where time disappears!)
To summarize our thoughts and processes here, we quote Brendan Burchard one more time, sharing his 5 Rules for the Game of LIFE:
- Have vision for your life.
- Believe in your ability to figure things out.
- Have fun making your dreams happen no matter how hard it gets…
- Be patient, but always persistent.
- Respect and love other people who are also playing this game of life.
We wish you the ability to combine and recombine existing internal circuits (knowledge, memories, skills) with NEW internal circuits (intuition, insights, and NEW CHOICES)— to create a year that serves you well, and provides you with abundant energy to chase your dreams!
Happy, healthy, abundant 2015
The Wellness Shifter Ladies!
Deb and Wendy
- Cooked by Michael Pollan (re: why do more cooking, a few recipes)
- Your Brain on Nature by Eva Selhub
- Let it Go by TD Jakes
- The Motivation Manifesto by Brendan Burchard
- Always Hungry? Here’s Why by David s. Ludwig and Mark Friedman
- Go Wild: Free your Body and Mind from the Afflictions of Civilization by John Ratey, MD and Richard Manning